Legends Academy LIVE Interview On Paul Henry Show

Legends Academy LIVE Interview On Paul Henry Show


If you are a smart funny and gentle man
but you’re a tad bit lonely this interviewer is for you. Yes, listen up.
Apparently Kiwi men have no idea about dating. In fact New Zealanders don’t
really know how to date at all. On the whole, it’s usually drunken night hookups
that lead to nowhere and sometimes drunken night hookups they lead to
somewhere but you hadn’t intended it and next minute you find, well, you’re set for life,
in one way. But The Legends Academy teaches men how to attract the woman of
their dreams. Co-founder of The Legends Academy Chris Duncan is with me now.
Chris good morning. [Chris] Morning Paul. [Paul] So you operate this in Australia, started in
Australia it’s in New Zealand now, it’s in Asia. What sort of men do you deal with?
[Chris] Well typically it’s the the nice guy. The guy that’s a really good guy but just
hasn’t quite figured out what he needs to do to become attractive to the woman
that he that he really wants so… [Paul] Are there men do you think who no matter
what they do they sometimes walk in and you look at them think “oh god, I just don’t
have a heartbeat, where do I start with this loser?” Are there men that just really just
really should give up and just get stamps? [Chris] There’s a lot of guys that ah need
a lot of help, and doesn’t really matter where they start from it’s really just a
few steps to be able to get it done so it’s really just teaching them from the
start so… [Paul] What is the hardest impediment to overcome? [Chris] Well it’s really the anxiety. When a when a guy sees a beautiful woman that he’s attracted to he suddenly
has got a whole heap of other chemicals going on his brain, he’s not thinking straight,
doesn’t know what to say and normally mumbles or stumbles his way through
whatever sentence he wants to do so, normally it’s all around mindset,
actually. [Paul] So is it that like, desperation thing, because you know people will often
say to you God you know, when when I’ve got a girlfriend, I could get girlfriends
like this. They’re everywhere. When I don’t have a girlfriend it’s desperate
times, I can’t find one. [Chris] Yeah, I mean desparate is a good word, we, we kind of
look at in a place where when you’re in the right mind frame and you’re feeling
the right way, then then you’re actually able to go in there with confidence, open
up the right conversation, build the natural attraction, then take it to
wherever you want, so a little bit of desperation but more of it, it’s it’s really just
having that feeling and that comfortable in your own skin. [Paul] And New Zealanders, New
Zealand is worse at this than Australians? [Chris] Absolutely, in fact
Australians and New Zealanders are some of the worst at dating. We don’t date [Paul] And we’re worse than the Australians?[Chris] I’d say so… [Paul] The Australians are one of the worst and we’re
worse still? [Chris] We are, New Zealanders typically just go to the bar, go the pub
have a drink, and it’s really that’s the only way. It happens through proximity or
in a workplace. [Paul] Yup. [Chris] There’s nearly not really any active dating that goes
on to the extent that you might see in the US or Canada or in the UK. It’s completely
different here and it’s just down to a lack of education. [Paul] So we’re just not sophisticated? [Chris- Laughing] Well I wouldn’t say don’t sophisticated I’d say more we just need a bit more of an
education. We need to get into it where we’re so used to just this other
way, where there’s a whole nother way of actual conscious dating, and consciously
going out there and searching for the right person. [Paul] Is it easier for Australians
because Australian women drink so much? [Chris-chuckles] Haha, I don’t think so at all. [Paul] Alright, let’s talk about
appearance. Does that have really anything to do with it or it is is it
all in your mind? Well of course appearance has a lot. I mean the way we
like to look at it is men go out there they try to hunt. They go out there ‘on
the prowl’ you hear, but really need think the other way. They need to think like
fishing where they put the right, the right bait and they need to have the
right bait and look the right way and draw them in. [Paul] And reel them in? [Chris] That’s right! [Paul] So what we should be doing is dangling something interesting and tasty in front of a
woman rather than just tackling her to the ground? [All laughing] [Chris] Well that’s one way to put it, it’s more being having the life in the look and being the person and being like what
you want to attract. Like attracts like, so it’s really coming from a different place. [Paul] Who do you think out of me and Jim,
which one of us do you think has got it right just in terms of persona and the
way we look and act so far from what you’ve experienced? [Chris] Well that’s a really
good question, and it really comes down to… [Paul] What’s the answer? [Chris] The answer the answer is it depends
which woman is sitting in front of you. Who you’re trying to attract. [Paul] I’m asking you, you’re the expert? Look, here’s me, here’s Jim which one of us has nailed it? [Chris] Well who are you after? That’s the question? I mean right now you both, you’re both looking good… [Paul-groans] It’s like I’m trapped at the bloody UN. [Laughing] [Paul] How…will you work ever be done? I mean
are you seeing any kind of general improvement in the way people socialise?
[Chris] Absolutely, I mean we have absolutely massive change with guys. We’re seeing
guys come in who couldn’t talk to a girl and they’re getting married to their dream girl… [Paul] Oh, you’ve had a lot of successes in terms of people getting
married as a result of… [Chris] Right, we’ve had marriages engagements, all across Australia, New
Zealand, people coming in and normally we find people they’re in IT, the’re
engineers, they’re highly intelligent men but they just don’t know how to have the
the social skills or the conversations… [Paul] I’m in the very early
stages of a relationship with a woman that I haven’t yet
seen, her name’s Eleanor and she’s Russian. [Chris chuckles] [Paul] She doesn’t have a brilliant grip of the
English language. [Chris chuckling] Okay [Paul] And that now I’ve told you everything I know about her. Should I… [Chris] Sounds like a decent relationship [Paul] Should I one: hold back a
bit and not seem too willing, or two: should I just send her over the airfare? [Chris laughing] Well, I
mean, the way that we like to think about it is push and pull. So you don’t want to
just push yourself all over her and you don’t want to pull too much so you want
to give a little and then pull back a little and really create that tension [Paul] Reel her in? [Chris laughing]
But overall if she’s not speaking English that might be the first
sort of thing that I might sort of look at it and think maybe it’s not the right thing… [Paul] She roughly
understands some words what I’m led to believe. Polina, you’ve got a question
from someone on the interweb? [Polina] I do, ah, where do you find the said date, if not at
a bar? [Paul] Yeah, if not at a bar where do you find these people? [Chris] Well, I mean there’s
many different places so there’s obviously there’s online dating, there’s
many different apps, there is meeting people at your workplace, but the main place is
through your friends. So people like you are gonna know other people like you [Paul] These people haven’t got friends. That’s why they need your help. They don’t have any friends [Laughing] They’re just
lonely. They’re just sitting there. They’re just they’re just lonely, they’re
probably overweight are they? [Chris] I mean there’s opportunities everywhere walking around
the park, at cafes… [Paul] These people don’t walk [Laughing] [Paul] No, okay, that’s good, so basically, and
people shouldn’t give up. They should they should go to our link on the
website and get hold of you? [Chris] Right [Paul] How much do you charge? [Chris] Well it depends what
they want so we do 1 on 1… [Paul] Oh god… [Laughing] [Chris] They can do a full weekend… There’s many
different things… [Paul] No, I haven’t got time. If you’re not going to answer the question, but it’ll be on your website? [Chris] It is [Paul] Thank you very much thank you very much for joining us there
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