Sports Parents, You’ll Want to Hear This | The Mel Robbins Show

Sports Parents, You’ll Want to Hear This | The Mel Robbins Show


– What are some of the worse behaviors you’ve seen on the field? – You know, I’ve seen a referee, by the way I get anywhere
from 200 to 1400 videos a week – What? – From not just around the country but from around the world. It’s an epidemic, it’s
a culture in crisis, it’s exactly what you said that it was. I’ve got a video of a woman that’s running on to the soccer
pitch that slaps the referee. I have a state school administrator out of West Memphis, Arkansas, who allegedly spit at an NFL referee. I have a 21 year old kid who is told by a 43 year old adult in Oregon, I’m going to kill you after the game. – Oh my god.
(crowd sighing) – This is a cancerous
epidemic and it has to stop. – Wow. I mean I’m stunned
by the number of videos that you’re getting every week. Why are parents so
psycho about kids sports? – (chuckling)
(crowd laughing) Psycho is the nice word. I think it boils down to entitlement. I think we live in a society to where if we get told no or
someone spanks your hand and said no-no, we get mad, we get angry, someone’s gonna take our joy away. We want to raise the trophy
at the end of the week and say, by gosh we are champions. Doesn’t matter. The kids
don’t care. Kids don’t care. (applause) – Wow. Well here’s
something that I’ve wondered because as a parent with three kids, Chris and I have noticed this
whole rise in club sports and the amount of money that
people are throwing down and we got sucked into it with lacrosse (chuckling) with our oldest one, is there you think, a connection between the uptick in money that parents are spending
and the uptick in this behavior that you’re seeing? – I do and let me preface this by saying, just because you spend
more money for your kid to play sports, that is not a permit for you to be an (bleep). – Whoa. There’s a word.
(applause) – And let me tell you why I say that, I ref quite a few, I ref
games all over the country and the higher and the
more affluent the family the bigger, – Really? – Yeah. And it doesn’t give
you a permit to be like that. So yeah, I think there is a major uptick, I think they demand perfection. I think their ego is fed by money, I think their money feeds their mouth and I think it turns into verbal vomit and it creates a toxic
environment for sports. No development, no fun, win at all cost and it’s an epidemic,
a cancerous epidemic. (applause) – When the parent also becomes the coach how does that also impact the dynamic because you know look, I
think a lot of youth sports are run based on volunteers, there’s a lot of amazing
coaches out there, a lot of us parents, you
know we want to be involved with our kids but how
can that impact this? – Let me say this, I was this person, I coached my kids
– [Mel] You were a psycho? – I was a psycho.
(laughing) And let me tell ya, I saw the light when my own daughter and
son at the end of the game, I’m going hey, we need to do this, you didn’t cover the back door on the second half on this play
and you got to play harder and their like, dad we
don’t want to hear it. Then they told me later,
we don’t even want to play anymore and so
for me that was like a reflection moment of,
what, why am I doing this? Why am I acting, because they are an extension of me and
I want to be victorious and I want to be the champion and I want to win at all cost and so I finally figured out to stop and to back up. Got in to referring, I changed my whole dynamics as a
parent and guess what? My kids are excelling in a major way and all they truly want to do, all they truly want to hear is that they want you to hug
’em, tell ’em you love ’em, tell ’em you enjoyed watching
them play and move on. (applause) – [Mel] Yeah and let somebody else, well case and point.

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